Let’s start this queer piece with a kind of disclaimer that even though this is written from a male perspective, it should never be construed as misogynistic and it certainly isn’t what you’ll understand accordingly. This was written for the highest of purposes: to try to ensure eternal marital happiness and the bliss of what may come. Therefore, when I mention the word “husband,” I mean, of course, the wife. Different situations in the family and in the relationship between husband and wife arise for different reasons; Emotions abound, floating within the four walls forever. The best way to deal with these feelings, in some just unhappy circumstances, is to reverse them. The undoing should only come from you and your spouse, and it promises to be a very difficult process; But I assure you it must be very effective even though I don’t have any supporting data and I only touch on typical situations when this unique method can be practiced.
One day, you both get up really late and go about your morning chores in a lazy way, albeit with guilt. Now, in most households, the most important aspect will always be “who will have the privilege of using the bathroom first,” and that depends entirely on your spouse. You or any of the members can take advantage of the opportunity only when you issue the permit. On that day, the green signal gives you to shower first, and in a happy mood you prepare yourself for the privilege. The moment you’re ready to put the towel around your bottom half and about to head to the bathroom, your wife pops up with something on her hands and says she has a little work to do in the bathroom telling you to wait a bit. You are waiting, sitting on a chair.
After about ten minutes she becomes slightly skeptical and approaches the closed bathroom door and politely inquires, “Are you taking a shower?” to which she said “no”. You return to your seat with the towel still around your lower half. More than twenty minutes pass, and she becomes impatient, hungry, and even grumpy now. Then she came out saying that she decided to take a shower for such and such reasons. Show your emotions constantly sitting in the chair, with the towel wrapped around the lower half of your body. Now, she gets angry at your indifference towards her generosity and blames you with baseless charges for not going there right away. You obviously get really angry right now; You throw off the towel, put on your pants and, being very hungry, start making breakfast for yourself. Hell Breaks Out: Her Annoyance and Your Inevitable Responses justify your act of having no ulterior motives. Your husband is in no mood to hold back and the mornings are almost spoiled. In a situation like this, “reflecting the sentiment” comes out really well: you wear a wide grin or a steady grin while you’re in the chair muttering without a syllable, and the moment you come out you go smiling and silent. The morning and at the end of the day are saved for you.
Another beautiful morning. You get up at the usual hour and go about your morning chores in good spirits. Your husband tells you that because she has some work to do in the afternoon, lunch will be early, and tells you to have a light breakfast. You obey more amiably. After that “light” breakfast your wife is sitting on the bed talking on her mobile phone. And you go on talking for hours, seemingly ignoring your “brunch order,” and you find yourself waiting indefinitely, the hunger making you desperate. You can somehow make one or two visits to the kitchen with plenty of dry fruits, nuts or crackers. When it becomes unbearable, you say to her, still busy talking, even a little loud, ‘You promised an early lunch, and now you torment me with hunger. If you can’t, let me cook myself…” And hell obviously breaks loose again. You can easily avoid this by adopting the process of “reversing feelings” – going about your business with a wide grin or a steady grin and saying nothing at all, ignoring the growing pangs of hunger like a spiritualist; Because peace and bliss is the priority.
You both have to keep an important appointment for that day, and you told your wife well in advance to get ready at the right hour without fail. As happens with most wives, they are late and until the hour has passed when you are supposed to arrive at your destination. Her casual and careless ways infuriate you even more. In this case, however, you’re already following this absentee’s advice: waiting patiently and remaining completely silent, unable to display the recommended broad grin or firm grin though. You are just human. You can’t help the long, impatient breath escaping from your lungs and muttering so softly, monosyllabically like “Oh my God!” kind of things. Even these catch your husband’s watchful ears and all hell threatens to break out again. So, you understand the particular benefit of following the entire “reversal of feelings” process.
Right or wrong, reasonable or unreasonable arguments are hardly important in the affairs of a happy married life. You gladly accept your wrong if your spouse says so, and your “right” is never accepted easily as any truth you have to resign yourself to. If you say her mistake as “wrong,” it will obviously trigger her to erupt like a volcano; Never sleep, you must understand that too. You see, all for eternal marital happiness and bliss. However, this is not the general picture. On many occasions your spouse returns to your “right” at a later date leaving you high and justified; However, you will best help yourself by not showing these feelings too publicly. It is also necessary to be a perfect listener you may be in the workplace. When your wife is in an expansive mood and goes into a long soliloquy, you should continue to listen in the most attentive position – never interrupt her, never get up or move around and don’t fiddle with your mobile phone regardless of boredom or similar feelings you may have experienced in the process.
Of course, you should understand your better half taking into account all the family and outside circumstances that can always affect it. Lately, the pandemic and frequent lockdowns have left your wife a prisoner in the kitchen without picnics or food parcels from her favorite restaurants, and all of this makes most wives feel very stressed and grumpy all the time. You should understand your better half more than you understand yourself. If you want to help her in the kitchen which you should, do it as she wishes, being very careful not to dislodge anything in the kitchen or dirty the floor, even if it’s a few drops of water. You are bound to make mistakes in jobs that you are not used to and therefore, whenever you make mistakes correct these mistakes immediately before your wife knows. And always remember the “reflection” formula.
